First dates can be tricky and even more if you met someone online. For many people meeting the first time in person is an exciting thrill but others feel unpleasant: Is my partner really the way I imagine him? Will we get along well? Do I meet his expectations? The transition from purely virtual contact to the offline world may be littered with many pitfalls. Thus, to have an enjoyable and memorable first date we have compiled a few tips:
1. The right place for the first date
It is important that you not only choose a safe place, but also a location where you feel comfortable. On the first date you are already nervous enough as uncertainty or nervousness should not also be added from the wrong location choice. You don’t want to be late because you stuck in traffic on the way to visit a place you have never seen before. It is important to stay in your comfort zone, where you can relax and be open for a nice conversation. Choose a location where you can talk. Besides the all-time classic a visit in a café you can also try to visit the zoo, museum, an exhibition, a high ropes course, the flea market or go a boat tour if the weather is fine.
2. Be yourself
In the virtual world things are exaggerated or better than they actually are. This is quite normal and can happen on both sides. The profile photo is maybe a couple of years old and shows a perfect picture detail or hides a few flaws. So what? The first date is an opportunity for both to give a more real picture. Be as honest as you’d expect from your partner.
3. The right outfit
Prepare a day before the first date. This saves hassle before the appointment. Pay attention to details: clean shoes are just as important as a spotless shirt or t-shirt.
4. Be on time
Plan enough time and prefer to be a few minutes earlier at the meeting point. Tardiness can quickly leave the wrong impression. If you’re late at least give short notice by phone call or SMS.
5. Bring good mood
Stress at work or trouble with the boss? Even if the day was crap and the mood is gone, this has to change until the date. Do something that brings you to other ideas and does you good. Go for a jog, listen to loud music or take a relaxing bath.
6. Keep your cell phone face-down
Pay full attention to your partner and not to your phone. The constant look at the smartphone, phone calls or even writing a SMS are absolutely taboo and only indicate disinterest or boredom.
7. The right topics - and the wrong
There are many issues that do not fit to a first date such as the ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend, marriage planning, an apartment together, the desire for children, sex, controversial topics like religion or politics, boring topics like the stock index or football (if not both are stockbroker or football player), diseases and death. Tell about your hobbies, funny situations from the past, the last holiday, the last book you read or common interests. Keep the question ratio at least 1:1.
8. Cap your drinks at three
A sip of alcohol can certainly brighten up the mood. But you should only drink alcohol when your partner does. To have a great memory on your fist date you should not cross the line no matter how many beer cans you crush on your head on weekends.
9. One step at a time
Even if the first date went great, the butterflies flying around in your stomach all day and you can only think of her or him - keep calm and stay relaxed. Don’t act desperate or clingy. No one wants to be bombarded with phone calls or messages. To express the anticipation before the first date, write a short message like “I am looking forward to tonight!”.
10. Practice makes perfect
Even your first date has failed: do not hang your head! You only get practical experience and self-confidence if you go on many first dates. You already know the right place for the best dates in your area.
And always remember: you only get one chance to make a first impression.